Because my trauma stems from being abused by a priest and the betrayal I felt by the Church and God, I lost my faith early on in the process of coping with what happened. I was angry, confused and lost. I felt that there was no way that I would ever let God or the Church back into my life.
Time passed and my struggles only got worse. In some of my darkest days I would sit by myself and try to make sense of what was happening. I would try to rationalize my feelings and my life in general. I was very overwhelmed and in trying to take some sort of control of my life, I would lament my lack of faith. One day I realized that it was me who was putting this restriction on my life. I was the one who chose to leave God and religion and the Church in my past. It was the first time that I thought that I needed to restore my faith.
As detailed in this previous post about the role of faith in my healing, it would be years before I actually did allow God and the Church back in. ( https://wp.me/p4rm8Q-14 ) Before that time, I explored all types of faith and religion. I was still pushing back against catholicism but wanted desperately to find faith, knowing that faith would help me through these trials.
I researched Buddism, Judaism, Islam and even Rastafarianism. While they are powerful anchors to God, none felt like they belonged to me. It turns out that finding out about these other religions was good for me. It started my path back to God and it showed me that my heart truly did rest in Catholicism.
Over the years I searched out bible verses that I could look to for strength. Verses that spoke to what I was going through in general and remind me of the power of Christ’s love. This was not easy for me. I have never been able to understand the bible. The way it’s written has always confused me and I haven’t been able to make much sense of the writings much less garner anything from the teachings.
In time I found a few verses that really spoke to me. They strengthened me and helped get me through some hard times. For this post, I’m writing about these verses. About where I was in my journey when I found them and how they directly affected my healing and still do today.
Isaiah 43:1-5
Do not be afraid. I will save you. I have called you by name-you are mine. When you pass through deep waters, I am with you. Your troubles will not overwhelm you. When you pass through fire you will not be burned. The hard trials that come will not hurt you. For I am the Lord your God.
This was the first verse that really made me feel God’s presence was still in my life even though I had tossed Him aside. Throughout this journey I have felt so alone. Even when people I love were supportive and wanting to help, I felt completely isolated and on my own. I appreciate all of the offers of help and understanding and the love but the fact remained that I felt that as much as they intended good, they had no way of truly understanding or helping me. I felt like I was on an island and no one was coming for me.
Isaiah 43 reminded me that I was never alone. That in my darkest times God was sitting with me, comforting me. What really struck me through this realization was that I had forsaken Him, yet He never left my side even though I had shunned Him. This verse was proof that I was on the right path. It showed me that God was always there and that I had made it to this point through His love and grace. I knew I needed to accept Him going forward.
My troubles did not go away and in some ways got worse. Reading this verse helped me remember that I would make it through it all with Him guiding me. I could literally feel His power in my darkest times. After abandoning Him, how could I not believe in His grace now that I was accepting Him.
James 1:2-3 and Romans 5:4
Consider it pure joy whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.-James 1:23 Perseverance, character and character, hope-Romans 5:4
I place these two together because they really taught me the importance of actively persevering through my trials. Perseverance is a very important part of life. When you are challenged as I have been, it becomes critical. I’ve mentioned in previous posts that there were many times early on when I felt that there was no hope.
Understanding that hope would come through perseverance was very important for me. When I was feeling hopeless I had no idea how I could ever find hope. Locked away alone, lamenting just how painful life had become it was impossible for me to see hope. Believing in God’s grace and restoring my faith showed me the path to hope.
These passages taught me that I simply needed to not give up. That I needed to endure these tribulations and trust that God would not put me through anything that I was incapable of rising above with His guidance. Perseverance did show me the light at the end of the tunnel, the hope I desperately needed. Hopelessness was a sign that I was not allowing God in my life. My faith and trust in God allowed me to persevere when I don’t believe I could have without HIm. My faith is strengthened now every day allowing me to continue to stay the course.
Romans 12:12
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer
Beginning with this passage, the next three are ones that I look to daily now for guidance and as reminders of God’s grace. Each day is still hard to get through. It isn’t easy to get out of bed sometimes, I feel like I can’t face the day. Some days I just can’t get out of a bad mood and I feel like I won’t know how to break that cycle.
Romans 12:12 reminds me to breathe during these times. That I must look to God and that He will show me the way through the trials. I like how short and to the point it is. It’s simple in words yet powerful in message. It reminds me that I do have immense hope in my life and that patience is necessary to remember that this too shall pass. Prayer during the hard times will center me and bring me to a place of peace in my day.
1 Peter 5:10
And after you have suffered, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will Himself restore, confirm, strengthen and establish you.
This passage was the first time I realized that my suffering will not be forever because it clearly states “After you have suffered”. For the longest time I believed that this anguish would never end. I felt like this is who I am, that I am meant to suffer and that is just how it will be. This defeatist attitude was soul crushing for me because I am, at heart, an optimist. Seeing no good in my future, only more suffering, was hard to accept.
Faith assures me that He will bring me back to myself. As the passage says, He will restore me, He will confirm, strengthen and establish me. Understanding and believing this is something I rely on daily now. I try to read this passage at least once a day although I’m not great at remembering to do so. It is important to know that when this is over it will be Him that ends it. It will be Him that strengthens me to be the survivor that He expects me to be.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
Praise be to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our troubles so that we may comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we receive from God
This passage was when I first started to realize that my suffering is for a greater good. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, God expects much of me as a survivor of these struggles. He expects me to receive His comfort and understand it. I have a calling to live in His comfort and provide that comfort to others who suffer as I have.
I have mentioned several times throughout these posts that I refuse to accept that I have suffered for no reason. That I believe wholeheartedly that I am meant to take what I have learned about suffering and surviving and use it to help others. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 is when I first realized this.
This passage showed me that I have been called by God. That He had not chosen to punish me. He had chosen me because He believes in my ability to rise above the struggles and help others who suffer. This gives me purpose. It gives me energy and drive and it gives me hope.
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